{"id":117585,"date":"2018-01-17T08:37:00","date_gmt":"2018-01-17T15:37:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bemorewithless.com\/?p=117585"},"modified":"2019-12-27T16:36:05","modified_gmt":"2019-12-27T23:36:05","slug":"real-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bemorewithless.com\/real-you\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Simple Ways to be the Real You and Take Back Your New Year\u00a0"},"content":{"rendered":"

If you\u2019ve already cheated on your resolutions, given up hope for a different kind of year, or are just mad at the new year already, you are not alone. There is so much pressure to become better versions of ourselves with all of the new year new you<\/em> hype. Change and growth might be just what we need, but perhaps there is a better approach. Maybe this year, instead of being a new you, just work on being the real you.<\/p>\n

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10 Simple Ways to Redefine “New You” and Take Back Your New Year<\/h2>\n

1. Look in.<\/strong>
\nWhat’s going on in there? We are so hard on ourselves. Recently I chatted with someone who was going through a really hard time. Someone she loved was sick. And while going through all of that hurt, she was mad at herself because she was struggling to clean out her closet. She said she didn’t know why it was so hard to let go. She told me that while she was working on her closet, her voice inside kept saying mean things like, “What’s wrong with you? You’re a loser. Why can’t you just let go?”<\/p>\n

She asked me how to fix that. I think she wanted a strategy, but I just wanted to hug her. I looked for the gentle words, the soft advice, but instead I told her the truth … Our inner critics are bitches. This might not be the right time to let go. Maybe instead it’s time to be really good to yourself.<\/p>\n

If your inner critic is holding you back, write down everything she says and ask yourself, “would I be this voice to a good friend? Would I ever treat anyone like this?” If the answer is no, don’t accept it for yourself. It takes practice and your inner critic will keep trying, but if you continually reject her and ask your heart what she thinks … that inner voice will start to sound more like the real you.<\/p>\n

2. Change your day.<\/strong>
\nIf you want to change your year, start by changing your day. A little bit every day will make a bigger difference than a lot every once in a while. Consistency over intensity.<\/p>\n

3. Let it go.<\/strong>
\nWhatever happened over the last two weeks to derail your efforts, write it down and let it go. You can\u2019t change it, but if you keep holding on, it may prevent you from moving forward.<\/p>\n

4. Change something. Anything.<\/strong>
\nIf you want to make a big change in your life but don\u2019t know where to start, change something. This change can be really small. For instance …<\/p>\n