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During our lives, we collect heavy things. Maybe they don’t feel that heavy at first, but the longer we carry them, the heavier they get. Aren’t we carrying enough?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Sometimes we don’t notice the heavy things because we are so conditioned to carry them. I check in from time to time and consider what I want to hold on to and what heavy things I want to let go of. That intentional reflection allows me to consider which of the new things I’ve picked up seem like a good addition and what feels like dead weight. I often find a couple of things I’ve been carrying around for far too long. I continue to remove the things that remove me from my life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Letting go of heavy things is a process, of course. Some of those things we’ve carried for so long that we forget how glorious the lightness is that comes from carrying less. When I put down the heavy things, I sleep better, laugh more and open my heart back up for more of what’s waiting for me in the world. It’s a relief to release the things I’ve been dragging along, or maybe they were dragging me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

10 Heavy Things You Don’t Have to Carry Anymore<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

As you consider these eight heavy things and others, don’t add another heavy thing like judgement to your plate. Instead of scolding yourself for holding on to these things for so long, or for picking them up in the first place, celebrate yourself. You are ready for a change. That’s worth cheering for.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Feeling guilty is a heavy thing to carry.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Feeling guilt implies that you’ve done something wrong but often, feeling guilty becomes a habit. You feel guilty when you don’t get enough done, or when you have to say no or set a boundary with someone you love. You may even feel guilty when you get sick and have to take time off or rest. Some feel guilty for relaxing and doing nothing or not attending an event they don’t want to attend. If you can relate and have felt guilty for these things, you may not be feeling guilt. Instead, you are feeling discomfort for taking care of yourself. You may not feel comfortable putting yourself first, taking care of your needs or even giving yourself what feels like a simple pleasure<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you aren’t used to doing that, your discomfort feels bad and you call it guilt … which makes you feel worse because you think you’ve done something wrong. Let go of this vicious cycle and question your guilt. When that feeling pops up ask yourself, “Is this guilt or is this discomfort?” You deserve to take care of yourself. It’s ok to be needy<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Let go of a little clutter.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Let go of a little clutter from your home, your calendar and your. It’s heavy. If you aren’t sure where to start, try letting go of these 75 things<\/a> or remove these 52 things,<\/a> or declutter your mind<\/a> for less stress and more peace and ease. When it comes to clutter, if you want to feel light you have to let go. When it feels too hard to let go of stuff, remember how hard it feels to hold on to it. You have to store it, clean it, think about what a waste it is. It steals your space, time and energy. If it’s not helpful in your life, you won’t miss it when it’s gone. Start in your closet<\/a>, your kitchen<\/a> or anywhere you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Expectations are heavy things to leave behind. <\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

If you are struggling to meet other people’s expectations or you are disappointed because other people don’t meet yours, you know how heavy this can be. It weighs down our peace of mind and our relationships. Pushing your agenda and expectations on the people you love in the name of \u201cknowing what\u2019s best for them\u201d will end in regret. Even if they bend to your will, you\u2019ll know your relationship was built on conditions instead of love, support and encouragement. Likewise, when you are compromising the direction of your own life to meet other people’s expectations, resentment will follow. Leave your expectations in the past. If it helps, create a ritual of writing them all down and then burning them or ripping them to shreds.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Digital distractions are heavy things.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

From doomscrolling to constant notifications and reminders, our phones and other digital devices are weighing us down. They interrupt our conversations and our most creative thoughts. Put them down by putting down your phone or turning it off when you don’t want want the distraction. Try single-tasking with your phone. Only use it when you aren’t talking to a friend, watching a show, eating a meal or creating something new.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Normal things are heavy too.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

When you do things that are considered “normal” because you want to fit in, it might feel heavy to carry them around. Some of the normal things I stopped doing include: saying yes when I want to say no, drinking alcohol<\/a>, apologizing<\/a> when I’m not sorry and saving everything. Notice how you spend your time and what some of your auto-pilot habits are. Which ones are weighing you down and holding you back? Sometimes life is more interesting and rewarding when you take the path less traveled.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Schedule shaming is heavy.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

In an interview with\u00a0The Washington Post<\/em>, Author Bren\u00e9 Brown said, \u201cThe expectations of what we can get done, and how well we can do it, are beyond human scale.\u201d Most of the expectation setting is an inside job. Our\u00a0focus is on\u00a0getting as much done as possible\u00a0instead of getting anything done well, or finding joy in what we are doing. When we try to juggle everything, we can\u2019t enjoy anything. If you\u2019ve ever felt bad about yourself after a long day that wasn\u2019t long enough to get it all done, you know all about schedule shaming. It happens when we tell ourselves\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n